I can't make him happy so I lie....?

I'm sorry hun, but I only got about half way through this, and I am already forming the opinion that your husband is a sick sick man. If he asks you to do something that you are not comfortable with, then DON'T do it. If he tries to make you feel bad for it, tell him to kiss you a$$. This man is only trying to control you, and it will only get worse. The way I see it, is that you have two options here. 1) divorce him and get on with your life, 2) get him into some sort of counseling, he needs it.